Stop Casting Your Pearls to Swine!

I am coming to you ladies today because I am frustrated how we allow ourselves to be treated. I think we don't even realize what abuse is. We can't recognize manipulation. We think mistreated is just a back hand slap and have to inclination of how mental beat down continuously drags us down.
Sigh....

So when does the cycle end? When do you say enough is enough? Have you looked at his past relationships, how he treats his mother? Are you opening your legs for the promises instead of seeing the work? I am tired of "bitches" falling for game and claiming victimization because they didn't have the patience to see evidence of this dude talk.

 I see women paying the mans bills, cooking , cleaning, screwing him,...her shoes are leaning but she will make sure the kids have..... all out of what ladies. Why do we sacrifice to the point of ill health, substandard living. Why do we have sex with men who do not care about us? And we are made to feel guilty if we 'ask' for support!

I am upset that it even as to be a question! Your man sees the leanin shoes, he sees the bowl of food you eat because thats all thats let after you dish out his plate, he sees the dissatisfaction in your face after e finish humpin you.  He sees the sadness in your eyes. Don't let no dude run that game that they ain't aware of what's going on.

Men look at everything when they first me you... your toenails, your ass, your hair.... they snif on your neck all that shit, but all of a sudden they don't 'see' anything wrong?
Familiarity breeds contempt, I always say. And for some strange reason we think we have to abandon our hobbies and desires when we get mated, we mesh ourselves as women with our men, we gladly open our legs at even request like a good girl.

The new shoes stay in the box to protect them and the ole shoes(you) get thrown in the back of the closet, banged about without a care.
And so time passes and your waist line expands, hair grows on your chin,  make cookies and cakes how new love,and lose your femininity. You don't dress anymore, your don't fix your hair, your don't wear perfume, you don't care anymore and it shows.
So how do you step out of that.
Rewind.
Go back to the time when you were nobody's mother, nobody's wife, go back to when you were just you.

• What did you do back then?
• Hobbies? Causes?
• Education?
• Who were you before you decided other people were more important than you?
•  Did you have friends? Can you call them now? 
• Were you more disciplined? Focused? 
• What did you eat? How much did you eat? 
• What type of men did you attract? What did they say about you?
•  When did you stop cultivating yourself? 

Be honest!
Emotions are great when directed to worthy things and people. You are adore your husband, if he shows  reason for adoration, but don't cast pearls to swine... Emotion is energy, a force of creation with magical powers if you expel energy, it should be for a good return. You are investing in an outcome when you put your emotions into anything or anyone.





Salkis Re, 1# Motivator for Black Women Worldwide!